Guard up with a guide
It is no news that the uncertainties of the job and it’s demands, turn to be a thief of time, happiness and memories. Rather than enjoy your honeymoon, you may likely be helping out with packing to return back to unit, course, deployment or posting. You may as well be lucky and enjoy your new marital life for a good amount of time before your solo marital life kicks off.
Whenever the separation between you and your service spouse happens, and however distraught you get, remember to get a photocopy of his identity card, a good number of his passport photographs, memorize his service number and maybe write it out somewhere. It’s your responsibility to know your spouse’s corp, unit and where he’s currently serving. It would be a plus, if you obtain your gate pass and Part Two Order of your marriage before your service spouse departs, especially as a new couple, in a new barracks.
No two military separations are the same, but the similarities are many, and it’s easy to relate to each experience. Some separations are more dramatic and quicker than others.
You are thus ushered into your full military spouse life; naive, sad, unprepared and somewhat confused and clearly tasked with the responsibility of keeping the home front.
Be kind to yourself, as you are sure going to make mistakes, fall into the wrong company of new friends and maybe second guess your decision of marrying a service personnel.
The good news is this; things stabilize slowly, and surely get better.
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Great insight. You are doing a great job Darling. May God Almighty strengthen and keep you for us all.
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Great insight. You are doing a great job Darling. May God Almighty strengthen and keep you for us all.
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Great insight. You are doing a great job Darling. May God Almighty strengthen and keep you for us all.
Getting married to military personnel is a journey no one ever gets adequately prepared for. The moment a woman gets married to military personnel, be rest assured you’ve gotten married to country of the identity of the man, BUT the big question is: upon the demise of military personnel does the country or the nation takes care of the widow who may never recover from the shock of the demise of her husband? This is actually a big problem because due to the incessant killings of military personnel as a result of insurgency, the numbers of widows increase on a daily basis and we have some who are under the ages of 25 and I asked the question: WHO IS PAYING THE PRICE TO MAKE ENSURE THERE IS PEACE IN NIGERIA? THE SPOUSE OF THE MILITARY PERSONNEL OR THE MILITARY PERSONNEL WHO DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE?